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Quick Tips
Gung fu is based on simplicity; all techniques are stripped down to their essential purpose without wastage or ornamentation, and everything becomes the straightest, most logical simplicity of common sense. Being wise in gung fu does not mean adding more but being able to remove sophistication and ornamentation and be simply simple — like a sculptor building a statue not by adding, but by hacking away the unessential so that the truth will be revealed unobstructed. True refinement seeks simplicity. — Bruce Lee
If we had 10 minutes, and we knew we would never see you again the rest of our lives, here is what we would tell you about losing body fat and building a beach-ready body. Keep in mind, there are many different effective methods, this is just what we believe to be the most efficient. If you feel strongly otherwise, “it’s no sweat off my sac”, or Kalai’s ??? We wish you the best in your journey either way.
I. NUTRITION GUIDEPOSTS
Dropping fat is more about what you DON’T eat (sugar, transfats, refined foods, etc.) than about what you DO. There is a definite fat loss hierarchy, and food choices stand atop the list. All else — total calories, macronutrient ratios, meal frequency, food distribution — is important, but secondary. The modern diet is full of crap. 90% of the foods available to us aren’t good for health or physique enhancement. Just because we like certain foods doesn’t mean we were meant to eat certain foods, and by continuing to do so we are paying the consequences. Sorry Cupcake Wars, you gotta’ ruthlessly cut the crap (except on cheat days, then all is fair game, hide your small children please). If you can do that, you’ll be well on your way.
OVERVIEW
- Cut out most modern, man-made, refined, processed, and packaged foods.
- Cut out PROCESSED “health” foods — whole grain breads and cereals, fruit juice, refined oils.
- Think “Caveman Nutrition” as the basis of any diet geared towards improving health and/or fitness — if it was around in caveman times, you can eat it. If man made it, don’t eat it.
- For essential nutrients and micronutrients, emphasize real, whole, natural foods — lean animal proteins, vegetables, and whole fruit.
- For energy nutrients, eat whole food fats (for low carb, healthy fat-based diets): nuts, avocado, coconut, OR low fructose, no gluten, natural starch foods (for lower fat, carb-based diets): yams, sweet potatoes, potatoes, rice.
- A lower carbohydrate, Paleo-style Diet is a good template for sedentary, obese, insulin resistant/type II diabetic populations.
- A carb-based, traditional Japanese-style diet is a good template for active strength trainers/anaerobic athletes.
DETAILS
- Cut out concentrated sources of fructose — high fructose corn syrup, sugar, fruit juice, honey, agave nectar, and molasses.
- Cut out trans fats/hydrogenated oil — processed snack foods, margarine.
- Cut out refined vegetable oils.
- Cut out fried foods.
- Cut out refined fats in general — butter, cream, most salad dressings, and oils (even “healthy” oils).
- Cut out gluten — wheat, rye, and barley.
- Cut out sources of lectins — soy, wheat, beans, lentils, corn, and peanuts.
- Cut out sources of phytates — “whole grain” cereals and breads, seeds.
- Cut out refined flour — bread, pasta, and pastries.
- Cut out dairy products — milk, cream, cheese, and yogurt.
- Cut out artificial sweeteners, preservatives, chemical food additives, etc.
- Eat lean animal proteins — fish, poultry, game meats, leaner red meats, and eggs.
- Eat unlimited non-starchy vegetables — spinach, broccoli, mixed greens, lettuce, etc.
- Limit fructose consumption to 1-2 pieces of whole fruit a day — berries, orange, apple, etc.
- Get the majority of your dietary fat as by-product of your lean animal proteins.
- Obese, sedentary, and insulin resistant populations may respond best to low carbohydrate diets, with healthy fats as the primary energy source.
- If your diet calls for “added” fats, emphasize whole food fats in their natural state and that come along with protein and/or fiber — nuts, avocado, coconut. Don’t eat refined oils.
- Strength trainers/anaerobic athletes may respond better to lower fat (fat as by-product of protein sources), moderate-to-higher carbohydrate diets with primary energy coming from starch foods. Unlike the sedentary person, these athletes run through cycles of depleting and replenishing liver/muscle glycogen stores.
- If your diet calls for concentrated sources of carbohydrates, stick to low fructose, low “anti-nutrient” (gluten, phytates, lectins) starches — yams, sweet potatoes, rice.
- If you have high calorie demands, you may need to spread food intake out over 5-6 meals a day.
- But for most people, eating 3 meals a day is the most convenient, realistic, and sustainable approach.
- And, we believe the most functional and sustainable plans are the ones in which the majority of calories and starchy carbs are eaten at night. This is our natural, evolutionary tendency.
- Drink NO calorie beverages only — water, green tea, and black coffee.
- Be realistic. Work your way down the list as best you can, at your own pace.
- For sustainability and sanity, eat a cheat meal of whatever you want once a week for both psychological and physiological benefits.
II. TRAINING GUIDEPOSTS
While there is overlap, training to improve sport performance is DIFFERENT than training to improve physical appearance. This is the core of our philosophy. Most training programs these days are geared towards neural overload (functional training/balance training) or cardiovascular overload (boot camps/cross training). As such, most trainees are improving performance parameters like strength and endurance, but are not changing their physical appearance. In other words, people are getting better at “doing” these activities, but their bodies aren’t changing that much. That’s fine if that is your goal. But if you want to change how you “look”, muscular overload (hypertrophy training) is the scientifically researched, and anecdotally proven, most efficient method to shaping your body and, along with diet, dropping fat. It may not be as cool, but it works. And I don’t know about you, but I am more interested in getting a six-pack than in performing a certain number of convulsion-like pull-ups, doing a one arm – twisting- squat thrust – curl or some other complicated exercise, or improving my crawling skills or sprinting speed. But that’s just me, I’m a vain piece of sH#t.
- If you are severely overweight, sedentary and/or de-conditioned, eat a lower carbohydrate, Paleo-style diet and walk daily. Most people can reach a natural, healthy bodyweight with proper nutrition and walking alone, no gym or formal exercise sessions necessary. Trainers stop cursing our names, you know its true.
- But, you won’t build a beach-ready physique that way. Reaching a healthy weight is different than getting ripped. All else below is for the non-lazy who are willing to work for higher-level physique development.
- Cut out (or at least limit) long distance, low-intensity endurance training (jogging, stairmaster, eliptical). While “traditional cardio” is necessary when trying to improve sport performance, it is totally inefficient and highly overrated for fat loss. Fat loss will be the result of your clean diet and appropriate caloric intake. Building lean muscle through strength training will provide your body with its definition, shape, and tone. You can’t make up for a poor diet with more time in the hamster wheel.
- However, non-formal, outdoor walking is cool. Walking is what we are meant to do evolutionary-wise, and gives us many of the benefits of traditional cardio activity (extra calorie burning, improved cardiovascular functioning, etc.) without the drawbacks (joint wear and tear, increased cortisol, impaired hormone functioning, muscle loss). Take a walk on your off days for general health, or daily during peaking phases.
- Make anaerobic activity — strength training — the foundation of your exercise program.
- Strength train 2 days a week (full body split), or 3-5 days a week (body-part splits).
- Give yourself 2-3 days off from training a week to prevent burnout and to optimize recovery (although outdoor walking is cool).
- Keep workouts to about 30-60 minutes. Intensity (how hard you work) is more important than duration (how long you work).
- With body-part splits, train 1-3 muscle groups per session.
- Frequency — Train each body part once every 5-7 days, allow at least 72 hours between training the same muscle groups.
- Perform 2-4 exercises for large muscle groups, 2-3 exercises for small muscle groups.
- Perform 2-4 sets per exercise.
- Perform 5-15 reps per set most of the time.
- Rest 30-120 seconds per set.
- Focus on basic exercises – lunge and squat movments, dumbbell and barbell rowing and pressing motions, pull-up/dip movements, etc. The human body is a simple lever system and does not need “complicated” or “innovative” exercises to produce results.
- Focus mostly on free weights as your foundation, use machines to supplement.
- Train from a stable base. DON’T train on unstable surfaces (balls, wobble boards, standing on one foot, etc.). Wobble boards build balance, NOT muscle.
- Don’t get sucked into fitness trends, and cool-looking “innovative” stuff you see in the gym or TV. Much of the fitness industry is geared towards what sells, not what works. The basics are the basics for a reason — THEY WORK. This is why they have stood the test of time, while the fluff comes and goes. To put it another way, do you want to be “cutting edge” or do you want to be “cut”?
- Keep the rep tempos (speed at which you lift/move the weights) around 2-0-2-0 (2 seconds up, 2 seconds down) or 3-0-1-0 (3 seconds down, 1 second up). Lower weight under control, lift under control or with a controlled, but forceful contraction, and don’t pause or lockout to rest in between reps. Don’t cheat by swinging or using rebound/momentum. Keep CONSTANT TENSION on the muscle. Sports are explosive, and training for sport performance should reflect accordingly. However, training for development is different, and should be centered around tension and overload.
- So focus on stimulating and overloading the muscle, not just how much weight you lift. This is better for the muscles, better for the joints, and better for overall safety.
- Focus on feeling the muscle work during the set, not just on moving a weight from point A to point B. Think of this as bodybuilding or body shaping as opposed to power lifting. Check your macho (or diva) ego at the door.
- Switch training variables — within the confines of the overall parameters — regularly (exercises, order of exercises, reps, interest rest, etc.) in order to vary the training stimulus and prevent boredom/training plateaus.
III. MOTIVATION GUIDEPOSTS
Changing the world, saving a life, influencing a generation, building a business, or establishing a legacy all require unique skills, incredible courage, and an extraordinary spirit. Getting a six-pack just requires the right knowledge, some daily practical application, and a little bit of discipline. Don’t make it out to be more (or harder) than it truly is.
- Other than a few special circumstances, genetics is not an excuse, so stop whining about them. We have skinny-fat dude and fat chic genetics. Learning, and then applying consistently, makes up for a lot of shortcomings in life. You may not become a world champion, but we believe anyone can improve from where they are at and build a decent physique. In other words, if we can do it, you can do it too.
- Set a short-term goal with a concrete time frame for motivation. This will prevent procrastination, and the ol’ “stopping and starting over” again and again.
- START NOW, there never will be a better time. Something left undone today will remain so for an eternity.
- Tell at least one other person about your goals or intentions so someone else is holding you accountable to their pursuit. Its harder to give up when you know someone else is going to bust your figurative balls if you quit.
- There are no REAL excuses. If something means enough to you RIGHT NOW, at this moment in time, you will find the willpower and the way.
- Getting in shape is a PROCESS you must go through, not a PRODUCT you can buy. There are no shortcuts or magic pills, so stop looking for them. The answers to all of your problems has, and always will, reside in you, not in some outside entity. Accurate knowledge and consistent application is what you need.
- Know your kryptonite, know the situations that throw you off track and pull you further away from your goals. Avoid or reduce your exposure to them. We both have Irish blood, so we stay away from the bars when its time to reach peak shape.
- Overcome negative inertia. The greatest amount of leverage and effort are necessary in the beginning to break bad habits and make tough changes.
- Harness the power of momentum. The hardest part is getting started. Once you get going, it does get easier.
- Make it automatic. We believe success (or failure) all comes down to establishing good (or bad) habits. Discipline is finite. The more healthy training and eating habits become automatic, the less you have to think or struggle with it, and the easier they are to maintain.
It is not how much you have learned, but how much you have absorbed in what you have learned — the best techniques are the simple ones executed right. — Bruce Lee.
That’s pretty much the overview of what we know, believe, and apply every day (except for cheat days), about building a beach-ready physique. Sure, there are more details and individualization with personalized program design, etc., which we’ll cover in articles and posts, but that’s the bulk of it.
Notice, we say it is simple, NOT easy. The “what to do” is simple. As my friend and colleague Shawn always likes to say, “Its all right there on a damn sheet of paper.” Actually doing it is the hard part. We’ve presented what we feel is the ideal scenario, its up to you to find your own comfort level and compromises. Deep down, I think most of us KNOW what we need to be doing.
So why is there so much information overload in the fitness industry, why are there so many bogus fitness scams, why are there so many coaches and trainees alike trying to make the process much more complicated than it is?
- Cutting edge, innovative, new, and complicated all sell well. It distracts us from the tasks at hand that we are all trying to avoid.
- People are lazy, and don’t want to change their negative habits. I am too with most things in life, but being in shape means enough to me to buckle down and do what is necessary.
- People are always looking for the magic pill or an easier way. Again, effective programs are usually simple (in theory), NOT easy (in execution). You can’t make up for hard work with complicated program design.
We hope these quick tips help you see the truth, and help you reach your physique goals. Maybe you’ll want to join us down at Da Beach some day. I’ll be the one prancing around in my Euoropean Man-Thong like an idiot (gosh, I hope you know that is a joke). Take care.
Warrior Guideposts
WARRIOR GUIDEPOSTS
1. Throughout your life advance daily, becoming more skillful than yesterday, more skillful than today. This is never-ending. — Hagakure.
2. Something that is not done at that time and at that place will remain unfinished for a lifetime. At a time when it is difficult to complete matters with the strength of a single man, one will bring it to a conclusion with the strength of two. — Hagakure.
3. It is clear that achieving incredible results requires incredible discipline — knowledge that can be applied in any endeavor. — Samurai Srategies
4. First, you must choose a goal before you can achieve it, and second, the more difficult and dangerous your goals is, the more effort you must put into achieving it. Ambitious goals will help you focus your energies, abilities, and actions to maximum effect. — Samurai Strategies
5. It is spiritless to think that you cannot attain to that which you have seen and heard the masters attain. The masters are men. You are also a man. If you think that you will be inferior in doing something, you will be on that road very soon. — Hagakure. Read the rest of this entry
Favorite Articles by Other Authors
You know, my main goal is to help you achieve your fat loss and physique enhancement goals. I realize to accomplish that task, I have to expose you (exposing myself is just marketing — good or bad is for you to decide) to great content, whether that content was created by me OR someone else. I’m not one of these “my way or the highway” type of guys. If something can add to your understanding/knowledge-base or help you progress in your journey — I’m all for it.
So I figured I’d do a little post on some of my favorite articles written by OTHER authors/coaches. These are pieces that have helped me in my own personal education and physique enhancement journey. Some are relatively new, but for some of the older ones, I have found myself referring back to them again and again (especially when writing my book). Here you go, complete with links: Read the rest of this entry
The Low-Down on Slowing Down for Better Results
I’m sorry that I’ve been MIA for a while. I was going through some transitions – all good ones – and as I worked steadily to get my shiznits back together, just didn’t feel like I had many helpful things to say. I’m happy to say that I’ve worked out the kinks, and I’m back!
It’s been just over 6 months since I competed in my first bikini contest. After returning to “real life”, and real eating (which somehow isn’t what most people consider “real,” even though we rarely eat processed food…but I digress), I’ve been working with Nate on finding a way to maintain a lean body going forward. It’s an ongoing process, but I’ve learned a lot and feel confident about the path I am on.
While the importance of diet has been emphasized over and over on this site, that doesn’t mean that you can “phone it in” with your workouts. If only 20% of your results will come from the time you spend in the gym, you better make that time worth something! One thing that I’ve learned over the past 6 months as I have been working to increase my lean muscle mass (something I’ve not really done in the past) is the importance of taking your time and being patient. This has been discussed ad nauseum in terms of your diet plan (you need to lose weight slowly, no extreme/crash diets, nothing happens overnight, etc), but is equally significant when working out.
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Coach T’s Guest Post — Addition by Subtraction
Since I’ve been away working on the book, it seems as if the writing bug has hit my friend and colleague Coach Toussaint, also known on our YouTube show as Mo-T. Shawn has been kind enough to share some great fitness psychology tips in the guest post below.
I can’t believe this beast is afraid of anything!
As a young boy, I was afraid of the dark. When the lights went out, the shadows of objects in my room would suddenly take the shape of monsters. I would often pull the covers over my head to shield my eyes from the known objects and unknown shadows I created in my mind. Today as a 36 year old man I still have a fear. I am afraid of living my life and not reaching for my dreams. Many of the dreams I’m talking about were born during those nights with the covers pulled over my head. Now I must take this knowledge and dream with my eyes wide open to fulfill the dreams of the boy and be successful in my quest to help motivate others to live their dreams.
As a personal trainer, I deal in the business of helping others achieve their fitness related goals. I have had some success over the years at doing this. I have found that many times it is not just the fancy exercises and complex programs I have created that help people succeed. I believe the primary reason some people succeed at achieving their fitness goals and some do not is directly related to how the person deals with fear, in particular their fear of success.
I know being afraid to succeed sound crazy, so why isn’t everyone successful at whatever they choose? It is safe to say that most people know what they need to do, but why don’t they do it. Is it unwillingness to do the work? Is it a fear of becoming different from those around you? Is it due to distractions? I think it’s a combination of these things and perhaps many others. For me, it is mainly my love for procrastination and laziness. I know that may sound harsh, but it’s true. I have known that I needed to start writing more to grow more and to live my dream of helping others to my fullest potential. For me, it took the experience of someone else telling me to do what I already knew that I should have been doing a long time ago. That’s fine. Sometimes we need a push from a good coach, mentor, parent, friend or even stranger to help guide us toward our path out of fear and into success.
My friend and mentor, Nate Miyaki, once said, “the programs are simple; execution is hard”. I understood this immediately. It goes back to the notion that most people know what they need to do, but doing it is the hard part. The challenge is to take those small steps in your day to day routine that put you on the path to success.
I’m not very good at mathematics, but I love its quantitative nature. For me to over come my fear and add writing to my life again, meant I had to subtract something else to make room. That something else was sitting at the front of the gym talking to my coworkers. Seems ridiculous doesn’t it? It’s funny I still talk to my coworkers, but now I do it with a purpose. That purpose is to extract their ideas and use them toward my writing. I lost nothing and gained double. That’s the idea. I believe that a good number of people don’t execute their plans because they believe they have to give up something up to do it. I believe that focusing on what you can gain by following through with the desires of your true essence will far exceed your perceived loss.
If you know you’ve been needing to lose that weight, don’t focus on the time you’ll lose away from your friends, instead focus on the possibility of making more friends. Focus on how you could be a positive influence on those around you, who may be suffering more than you thought you were. Be a difference maker, not an excuse maker. Excuses are just bits of undigested processed sugar that make their way into our thoughts. They really don’t exist. The only thing that exists is your will to be the best you can be in whatever it is that you choose. Let’s turn on the light and open our eyes to the success that lies ahead.
- Shawn Toussaint
Hungry? You Should Be
If you are trying to change your body composition, hunger is a good thing.
hun·ger
verb /ˈhəNGgər/
(1) Feel or suffer hunger through lack of food
If your goal is to get lean, you will likely be on a dietary plan that restricts the amount of food you eat. This will undoubtedly result in some amount of hunger as your body learns to function with fewer calories than its used to. And whether you eat three moderate sized meals per day or six smaller meals per day, the reality is that with less food, at some point you will be physically HUNGRY.
What do you do when this happens? If you are serious about losing weight, you deal with it. A certain amount of physical hunger is a good thing, because it means you are consuming less than what your body “needs” to maintain its current weight.
I’m not saying you should be famished or hungry to the point of feeling faint, as that would clearly mean you’re not eating enough for basic functioning; however, a little growl of your tummy at night before you go to bed (because dinner was 3 hours ago) can be a friendly reminder that you are doing the right thing. Resist the urge to have a snack before bed…you’re just going to sleep anyway, you don’t need to eat! You’ll have a nice healthy breakfast when you wake up in the morning.
Your diet will likely also restrict the kinds of foods you are allowed to eat, and as such you’re also likely to be “hungry” for things that are not on your diet plan. While most of these pains will be psychological (you don’t need Kettle Chips), some of them may be true physical withdrawals from highly addictive foods, like sugar. What do you do when you want something that you can’t have? Again, if you’re serious about your goal, you deal with it. Many of the things we love to eat – full of fat, sugar, and salt – are precisely what will hold us back from reaching our physique goals. I’m not saying you can never again have chocolate cake, linguine, or whatever it is that you love (shh…don’t tell Nate I said that!); however, during this “lean-up” phase, you must stay the course and not give in to the call (or scream) of these cravings.
How can you manage these nagging physical signals that keep coming at you? With yet another kind of hunger.
hun·ger
verb /ˈhəNGgər/
(2) Have a strong desire or craving for
How strong is your desire to reach your physique goals? In order to succeed, it must be greater than that of both kinds of hunger above (combined!). That’s a pretty tall order.
This is where it truly is mind over matter. This is the hunger you want to feed, and to use to your benefit. Believe in your mental fortitude, and use the motivation that is guiding you to make this change in your life. Are you training for an athletic competition? Do you have a special event coming up? Or are you finally putting you and your health at the top of your list of priorities? Whatever your reason, always keep this in the forefront of your mind, and use it as a shield to deflect – or sword to slay – the temptations when they attack. Who is more worthy of coming out victorious, you or that Oreo cookie? (See Nate, I can write with the Warrior theme!)
Whatever your reason, whatever your motivation, grab onto it and hold tight. Use some of the recommendations on our site to help you through the challenges and temptations you will face (stick with us, there will be more!). In time, the physical hunger will become more manageable, and by learning to harness your mental hunger, your desire for success will fuel your efforts to persevere, and help you achieve your goals.
If we were to meet The Most Interesting Woman in the Universe she might just say, “Stay Hungry, My Friends.”
Content, Content, Content
What’s up my friends?
Well, its been awhile since my last post. But its not because I’ve been sitting on my a$$. I’ve been busy creating a bunch of content, both for this site and for some of the other fitness outlets I am associated with. So here is everything that has been going on:
1. I think 2 new articles went up on T-Nation since we last talked. I’m starting to build an audience over there and it is really helping me get my name out in the industry. Here are the articles:
New Starchy Carb Food Pyramid
5 Ways to Improve Insulin Sensitivity
2. We’ve started and have been filling out the video exercise library. Here it is:
3. Coach Shawn Toussaint and I were guests on Whole Body Talk, a weekly fitness podcast. We talked about natural bodybuilding and the ins and outs of body composition transformations. Here is the link:
Whole Body Talk: Shawn and Nate on Natural Bodybuilding
4. Kalai and I are going to stop running the other site we had started — Fat America Fit America — and just focus on this one. Which means Kalai is joining this site and will be posting up content as well.
5. I’m taking a month off from training after next week to focus on finishing my book. Hopefully by the end of that process I’ll have all of my theories — both science and practical strategies — all in one comprehensive place.
Alright. Until next time, take care. And thanks a lot for the continued support!
Just this once, say “Not This time”
We live in a food-centric society. Every other commercial on TV is about either some fast-food stop where you can get a “value meal” or family restaurant that serves huge portions of comfort food, a “nutritious” breakfast of sugary cereal fortified with whole grains you should make for your kids, or some easy dinner that you can prepare in a snap (just add water to all these chemicals!). There are magazine ads for sweet and salty treats, sodas, and even “healthy” versions of decadent desserts. And while half the advertisements are for food, the other half are for diet plans! No wonder we’re such a mess!
I won’t tell you the kinds of things you shouldn’t be eating if you are trying to lose weight or improve your physique, because you most likely already know what those are (and if you don’t, check out our nutrition articles). Yet we just can’t stay away, can we? Despite our best efforts, we always find an excuse to eat things that we know are bad for our diet goals. I know, because I am guilty of this too. We say to ourselves things like “Oh, just one bite” or “I had a stressful day, I deserve it” or “I’ll have this now and eat a salad for dinner”. Once we start to waver, there are often people around us who push us over the edge, encouraging us to indulge, or just have a little taste. It seems like we can’t seem to make the right choice.
But what if, just once, you said no? What if you could look temptation right in the face, and acknowledge the fact that while you absolutely want that bite (or whole piece) right now, you’re not going to have it. What if you made your will to stay on track stronger than your desire for a treat that may make you happy for 30 seconds, but will fill you with regret and disappointment for much, much longer?
I will tell you that I have to do this just about every day. Yes, I have my diet plan. I bring meals and snacks with me to work so that I have all my nutritional needs to last the whole workday. I know that if I cheat once it won’t be the end of the world, but I also know that cheating just once opens the door for more cheating…which will derail my efforts and bum me out, big time.
There is at least one moment during each day that I’d like to eat something that’s not in my lunchbag. When I stop to get a coffee in the morning I am tempted by tasty sugary pastries (darn you, cute and tasty petite vanilla scones and old-fashioned donuts…especially the chocolate ones, which they rarely have these days). As I stand in line waiting for my turn, I stare at them…and even though the calorie counts are looking me right in the face reminding me of the huge mistake I’m about to make (490 calories in a donut, or 140 in a single petite scone – but who wants just one? Give me all three!) I consider getting something. No one will know, just me. I’ll skip my rice cakes this morning to make up for it. I’ll have just one today, and then no more, I promise.
No, I shouldn’t do it. Stick to the plan, you don’t need this. Oh, but they taste so good! Then I get to the counter. Oh crap, my turn…what to do? Ready, go!
“Hi, can I help you?”
“A small coffee, please.”
“Sure! Any pastries?”
My head says “Just this once…”
And my mouth says “No thank you.”
What? Yeah! I made it! But then I look in front of the cash register and see some dark chocolate and think “Oh that’s healthy, right?” Ack, here we go again! No, stay the course! Look away! I grab my coffee and run.
My immediate feeling of pride is deadened ever-so-slightly by the fact that even after successfully dieting for 3 months to compete in a bikini contest, I am still challenged by a love for sweets and carb-rich foods. I wish I could just turn it off, but I can’t.
The solution I’ve found is to do just what I said above. Look right at whatever it is I know I shouldn’t eat. Acknowledge that I want it, and then say to myself, “I’m not going to have this right now. Just this one time, I’m NOT going to have it.” That’s not to say I might not have it later, but that’s another decision for another time. This time, the decision is no. And I walk away.
One time may not seem to be that big of a deal, but if you can do that more than once, imagine how that will add up. Can’t imagine it? Check this out. Here’s my list of things I wanted to eat last week:
Sunday: Coke, Parmesan Goldfish, Peanut M&M’s, Dark Chocolate Bar
Monday: Apple Cinnamon Muffin, Banana Bread
Tuesday: Old Fashioned Donut, Vanilla Scones, Peppermint Patties
Wednesday: Curly Fries, Oatmeal Raisin Cookie
Thursday: Skinny Cow Ice Cream Sandwich, Brownie
Friday: Donut or Vanilla Scones, Tortilla Chips
Saturday: Chocolate Chip Peanut Butter Cookie, Gelato, Chocolate Martini, Plum Wine
I’m a little embarrassed to post this list, because it shows what a piggy I could be if I didn’t practice the restraint that I do. But I think it’s important for you to see that I, like most people, enjoy sweet and starchy foods. I also think it’s important to see all these things listed out, and how many calories and grams of sugar, carbohydrates, and fat I DIDN’T consume by saying no…one choice at a time.
It’s not like I’m thinking about these things all the time. In fact, by eliminating sugar from my diet (I do have some artificial sweetener in my coffee), my cravings for sugar have diminished significantly. Eating balanced meals at timed intervals has done wonders to stabilize my hunger (or lack thereof) throughout the day, so I’m not famished and dying to shove food in my mouth at random intervals. Still, certain foods show up in front of me in one way or another, and while I may not crave them, I am not numb to their temptation.
But here’s the thing: I don’t NEED these foods, I just WANT them. And a lot of the time I don’t even really want these foods specifically, I just want something different (perhaps because admittedly, I’m too lazy to put more variety into my cooking).
This cognitive understanding of my motivation to eat is hugely important. By understanding the difference between what is a want, a need, or neither, I am able to stay in better control and find the strength to pass on foods that I know will taste good, but will keep me from my health and physique goals. Eating healthfully and eating a “clean” diet is a very mindful process. NOT thinking about what we put in our mouth is what gets us into trouble; as such, getting to a better place requires much more thought and intent. If it’s not on your “plan,” you need to actively decide to keep that food out of your mouth.
It will be a bummer at first, I won’t lie about that, but in time it gets easier AND feels better. With each “no,” you will gain confidence in your strength and resolve to stick to your plan. As you start to reach your goals, your achievement will be incentive to keep up those good choices.
However, I also know that there will be times that you will choose to say “yes,” and that is okay! Understand your reason for that choice, whether it be a “planned cheat,” a celebration, or you say “screw it” – that’s fine too, it happens. Accept it, enjoy that moment, and move on (but get back at it!).
It all starts with a choice.
Give it a try. Practice “Just Saying No.” Try keeping a list for yourself. For one week – heck, start with just one day – write down all the things you wanted to eat, but didn’t because it wasn’t in your plan, and would keep you from reaching your goals. Once you have that list, add up all the unnecessary calories and grams of sugar, carbohydrates, and fat you prevented yourself from consuming. Be proud of yourself for sticking to your plan. Challenge yourself each day to THINK about your food and CHOOSE the one that will make you healthy, happy, and proud.
I’m the “Normal” One
So you were able to read about how awesome Nate is (which is true, he is that good at what he does). If you follow his advice you will really get to where you want to go with regard to your physique goals. It won’t be easy, but it will work. How do I know? I’ve lived it. The good, the bad, the fat, and the fit.
When I met Nate I probably had some of the worst eating habits you can imagine. How bad? Try Starbucks White Chocolate Mochas with a bag of Parmesan Goldfish for breakfast, pizza with a Mountain Dew for lunch, Doritos and a Snickers bar for an afternoon snack, and cereal for dinner. I’m not kidding about that, and yes, it’s disgusting. I exercised because I liked it and it helped me keep my body from ballooning up with all the junk I ate….well that, and my still-pretty-young metabolism.

Nate never forced me to change my ways, but after a while it was hard not to be influenced by his healthy habits. I started eating real meals and cut out the sugary drinks. I still enjoyed my share of bad food, especially at parties, and upped my workouts to “compensate”. I was able to lose and maintain weight as long as I kept the workouts high and frequent; but as soon as I fell off that wagon, the flab crept back on. I didn’t feel like a “yo-yo dieter” since I didn’t really diet, and I typically stayed within about 5 pounds of my normal weight. But I was an all-or-nothing kind of girl…either full force with 1.5 hour workouts, or sitting on my expanding butt for weeks at a time.
Then one day I started to pay attention, REAL attention to what Nate said, and the science behind his recommendations. Little by little I began integrating them into my own life. When I applied myself I realized, hey, this isn’t that bad at all! Fairly quickly, those around me started to notice the changes in my body. When they asked what I was doing, I simply said “whatever Nate tells me to do.” Many of them balked that they couldn’t possibly eat the way he does (so clean). My response? If I can do it (see above horrible eating), so can you.
When speaking to friends and family, I found myself translating what Nate did as a bodybuilder and physique competitor – which was the basis of the plan he prescribed for me – into language and tips that non-competitors (a.k.a. “Normal People”) can apply in their own lives. I enjoyed making the steps seem more realistic, and hearing how people were using them in their own way and getting results. It made Nate and me so happy to be helping those we know and love feel better about themselves and their health!
The more we talked about it, we realized that it’s not just WHAT people do, but HOW and WHY they do it that matters. I think we all know what we should and shouldn’t eat to improve our health and physique. It’s the practical application, actually DOING IT, making these concepts click, become a habit, and stick, that is difficult. And that’s why I’m here.
In addition to sharing my personal experiences, I’ll discuss the psychological factors associated with making changes to your diet and exercise habits (my parents will be thrilled I’m finally making use of my degrees). While the goal is to make these changes a permanent part of your life, let’s face it: change is hard. However, by being mindful of the process and the choices you make, you’ll find that you can go further than you ever thought possible!

